The Study of Racialism

pennypincha · New User Joined: 09 Mar 2008 {Posts: 45 }

I have been a skeptic my whole life concerning mixed couple complaints of harrassment. This weekend I experienced it with my own eyes. I took two neighbors to a black owned restuarant. One was an extremely short ruddy red irishman and the other was a tall tan MGM female. Both were in there twenties and were NOT a romantic couple, we were just three friends eating out but I am considerablely older that the two.

We sat in the big display window eating, the attention they attracted was SHAMEFUL! I was speechless, today I still am.

sagascend · Moderator Joined: 17 Jun 2006 {Posts: 2087 }

This type of negative attention happens all the time. I am working in Detroit right now and went out to dinner with my male co-worker, who happens to be a pale-skinned Jewish guy. No one said anything but boy did I feel the hostility. I can't say that I would feel comfortable walking around here with a date if he did not have visible SSA ancestry.

In areas with ethnic diversity and social integration I think harassment would be less likely. For example, military towns IME are much more accustomed to cross-color line couples/families. So are pockets of large urban areas. Anywhere there is an overwhelming majority, and one half of the couple is from that majority, I think harassment/negativity will be more likely.

The worst comments I've ever received were when I dated a Mexican-American guy in the southwest and we went out to dinner. Tia and abuelita at the next table were going to town on us in Spanish, not realizing that I understood them. They'd probably have nothing to say if I was Mexican-American and he was Black American. Around these parts Mexican-American women are the preferred romantic partner for men so I'm sure they were extremely irritated that one of "their" men didn't appear to have that preference. Of course the stereotype about Black American women is that they will openly express their disdain at seeing Black American men with non-Black women, but every Black woman I know who has partnered with a non-Black man has a horror story about receiving verbal abuse from Black men about her choice in partner.

DucorpsToo · Posted: Mon 16 Jun 2008 17:56 Post subject:

^^^^^^^^

onlyhuman77 · Posted: Mon 16 Jun 2008 21:05 Post subject:

Something I found very interesting, once when dating a multiracial female who was West Indian (Father-Indian/West Indian, Mother-German) I received so much attitude from African American females it was rediculous. But when I was dating a Spanish female (Mexican/Puerto Rican) who dressed way too provacative for my taste, not a peep from the peanut gallery. So the Multiracial sister with African ancestry gets no love but the Latina with Eva Longoria proportions gets props on her sleezy yet fashion forward attire . I just didn't get it.

mixedmom · Moderator Joined: 27 Nov 2004 {Posts: 774 }

Please continue the discussion of Latino Ethnicity and race here.

sagascend · Moderator Joined: 17 Jun 2006 {Posts: 2087 }

Creole GAL · Experienced User Joined: 12 Mar 2007 {Posts: 183 }

It bothers some people. It catches attention from some people.
And then you have people like myself who would have not noticed at all...White woman/Black man , Black woman/White man, White woman w/ Black kids, Black woman w/ White kids, etc.
As I heard someone once say ,if people look at you, then good. You must be pretty. LOL!! Look on.............